Is this it? Why does life seem so unfair?
It’s
easy to see others living our dreams. It’s easy to feel held back,
misunderstood and invisible, but there comes a time in our lives when we
just can’t take it anymore. This is when we need answers and the
confirmation that who we think we are can change.
After a
lifetime of comparing with others it takes courage to step out from
behind the rock and change. When everyone around you appears to shine
while you feel hidden and misunderstood, there comes a time to say
goodbye to the story of ‘I’m not good enough’.
‘When Everyone
Shines But You’ is a new non-fiction book by passionate writer and
blogger Kelly Martin. Kelly had lived the last thirty years not feeling
good enough, feeling like a failure, and watching as people her own age
and even younger ‘appeared’ to be passing her by in terms of confidence,
career, relationships and prosperity. As she neared 40, something began
to stir inside, an unresolved sense of ‘Is this it?’ and so a huge
quest began, to find answers and this book was part of that quest.
‘When
Everyone Shines But You’ takes the reader on a journey. In each chapter
the author sheds light on topics from rage and jealousy to money and
loneliness and so much more. This is not a ‘positive thinking’ book.
Kelly is a passionate advocate of the present moment. She discourages
any ideas of creating your own reality or the law of attraction. Instead
she brings the reader back to the present moment, in which permission
is given to be completely human.
Unlike most self-help books, in
which you are seen to be broken and need fixing, here you are given
permission to be who you are, as you are, warts and all, negative as
well as positive.
In fact, the author demonstrates that far from
trying to get rid of negative thoughts, feelings and emotions, they
must be accepted and understood as a natural part of who we are; that
they must be embraced and given care and attention, and in so doing,
they will allow us to experience who we really are, beneath the
conditioning imposed on us since early childhood, by parents, teachers
and all the authority figures in our lives.
We can’t force
change, but we can allow change to take place naturally. There is no
need to put on a happy face when feeling sad, or a peaceful demeanour
when feeling angry. This is change that comes from within and is a
journey where mindful living embraces ‘what is’ instead of trying to fix
what we think is broken.
No more trying to fix you.
No more saying affirmations when you are not feeling them.
No more trying to create your reality.
*Discover why positive thinking does not work.
*Explore your relationship with feelings such as rage, envy and sadness.
*See how mindful living can consistently bring relief.
*Recognise the gift in using frustration as a motivation to step forward.
*Give up the ‘fast food’ approach to personal growth and grow more naturally.
*Learn how to experience alone time as sacred instead of painful.
*Understand how trying to control your world has been re-enforcing your story.
The
author explains that there is a natural flow to life, and that by
allowing this flow we can achieve far more than by trying to control and
manipulate.
It is time for awakening to who you really are – not who you think you need to be.
